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From a date to a relationship

Getting things back up to speed

So, you’ve been on Parship for a few months, but you haven’t found the right person yet, and you might not be getting as many contact requests as you did at the start ... It’s time to inject some new energy into your online dating.

Getting things back up to speed

First of all, it’s worth remembering that, when you first joined Parship, your profile appeared on other members‘ lists of matches with the word ‘NEW’ attached to it. That probably helped to prompt action on their part in the form of contact requests and hopefully it led to some email correspondence and maybe even a few dates. But where do you go from here?

Onwards and upwards
You might be wondering why you haven’t had a similar experience to those Parship members who have written in to tell us that they found their soulmate after just two or three contact requests … but maybe people who have had an experience like that are just especially ready to tell the world about it. You should bear in mind that there are many others for whom things take a little longer.

Stick to your guns
It could be that your friends keep trying to set you up with someone, or that they occasionally ask you sympathetically (and maybe just slightly cynically) how things are going with your online dating. Well it’s worth sticking with it - happiness might well be waiting in the wings.

Quote … unquote
Rather than letting other people shake your confidence, think about refreshing your ‘About me’ page. Maybe you have recently seen a film that captured your feelings about life - so why not mention it in your profile? It’s also worth injecting a little humour into your profile; it’s something that people tend to like in a prospective partner. As for phrases like “Find that out for yourself”, it’s better to leave them off the ‘About page’ - along with all-purpose references to romantic sunsets and sunrises. You should find ways to make your ‘About me’ page different and memorable. Maybe include a relevant quotation from one of your favourite authors. The Internet makes the research easy!

It’s time to break the ice
It’s fun and simple to send an Icebreaker quiz to one of your recommended partners. Just click on the ‘Send an Icebreaker’ link in his or her profile, answer four quick questions and then send the same four questions to your recommended partner. Then it’s a matter of waiting to see how your two sets of answers match up. It’s just a bit of fun, so don’t be deterred if the match is not four out of four - and the quiz can provide some initial subject matter for a follow-up email.

Open your mind
Do you have some kind of ideal partner in mind - a certain look, a certain job, certain interests, and living within a 10-mile radius of your home? If so, then it’s worth thinking about being a little more flexible, or you could be excluding some real possibilities. And remember that you can’t make assumptions about someone based on the job that they do. There is so much more to a person.

And don’t be shy about sending a contact request if you find any aspect of someone’s profile interesting. It doesn’t commit you to anything, but it could open up the way to something special. You won’t know unless you try.

Make your own luck
Even if your correspondence with your match isn’t all that sparkling and his or her photo doesn’t set the world alight for you, don’t automatically assume that a meeting is out of the question. It is only face to face that you can find out whether there might be a spark. Don’t be afraid of putting yourself out there!

Work at it!
Maybe it doesn’t sound too romantic, but online dating needs a bit of work. Make some time for it and reserve some energy for it. Try and put by an hour or so for it every day. Yes, you might need to have some luck on your side to find the partner of your dreams, but, as the saying goes, who dares wins! As the Russian author Tolstoy wrote: "The best way to obtain true happiness is, without any rules, to throw out from oneself on all sides, like a spider, an adhesive web of love to catch in it all that comes: an old woman, a child, a girl, or a policeman." So, get spinning!

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