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Friends with benefits – not necessarily a relationship killer

Friends with benefits – not necessarily a relationship killer

Another one for the “science proves the obvious” vaults. This time it’s about the ever popular friends with benefits institution. You may have heard some stories about how having such a friendship is a relationship killer and nothing will ever come of it, but now a survey of nearly 800 long-term couples has found that 20% of them started as friends with benefits.

And it seems such beginnings do nothing to harm the development and success of the relationship either. Stating the obvious, researchers attribute success to the possibility that some people may start off as friends with benefits and then realise they both want something more and those are the relationships that last.

They also suggest that the type of serious conversation one needs to have with one’s friend in order for the relationship to progress further may be exactly the sort of thing needed to build a solid base of open and honest communications for the future.

The way I see it, such friendships can be entered into when both people want a casual but regular and friendly relationship or when one person wants more but is happy to contend with less for the time being. Puritanism aside, there is nothing wrong with such a friendship and I see no reason why it couldn’t grow into something else if both people feel the need to progress.

Shimrit Elisar Written by Shimrit Elisar
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