Once you’ve made successful contact with someone online, the next major step is a first date. You can learn a lot about someone through emails and, in due course, on the phone, but it’s only face-to-face that you can really gauge their relationship potential. These days, more and more people are opting for an easygoing first date - maybe a coffee or a quick lunch, but the choice is yours. No matter what the context, you’ll want to make a good impression - and you might well feel a few nerves.
Here, Parship’s experts provide some advice on how best to handle a first date.
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The first date
What do you want to get out of a first date? Realistically, you can’t expect to know within an hour or two whether you have found ‘the one for you’, but you can find out whether you would like to take things to a second date.
There is no way of telling whether a first date will lead to a lifelong relationship, a warm friendship or simply ‘it was nice meeting you’. But every new encounter could hold possibilities, especially if you’ve been brought together by Parship’s compatibility matching. Whatever ultimately happens, you can get the best out of every date.
On a first date, the ideal is for the conversation to be a relaxed question-and-answer session. Feel free to start off with a few easygoing questions - nothing too probing. Most people are happy to talk a little about themselves. You should be ready to talk about yourself too - but if you tend to get very chatty when you’re a bit tense or excited, maybe try to tone things down a little. On the other hand, if you take a little while to warm up, make sure that your date can see you are actively listening and oiling the wheels of the conversation.
On a first date, it’s probably best not to spend too much time discussing previous relationships, or serious or highly personal issues such as your sex life, illness, marriage and whether you want children. If the two of you hit it off, that kind of conversation can wait till another time. If the first date goes well, and you feel that the two of you made some kind of connection, then you should think about a second date. It will give you the chance to get to know each other better, and it won’t commit you to anything more than another meeting.